italy: its simple lessons (3). opening doors

Italy is full of amazing doors.

They give old buildings a mysterious aura.  People always comment on them, because there is something enticing about Italian doors.  They open onto busy streets, or sometimes cobblestone walkways.  Sometimes, they’re humble, sometimes elegant, often peeling, telling of generations that have pushed, pulled, slammed, and snuck through (trying not to wake the watchful eye of Mama upstairs).  What lies behind is sometimes mundane, sometimes unexplainable, sometimes breathtaking.  But the allure of Italian doors keep people coming back, hoping to get a glimpse of what life is like on the inside.

Italy is one of the places in the world that opens people’s imagination – about food, about color, about the coexistence of creativity with tradition.  Everything  about Italy involves a paradox – things that should be ugly are beautiful, things that function do not, and things that would never work anywhere else manage to happen here.

People want to know why and how it can be that way.  The doors are a clue.  They are the great defenders of hearth and home.  They hold out unwanted intrusion, hold in what is precious, and are a curiosity to all who pass.   Italian doors are the sentries of history.

It takes a lot of work to open doors in Italy.

They’re heavy, and the hinges are rusty.  Sometimes the years of patina have taken their toll, and stubborn door handles stick.  But you simply have to get a glimpse of what’s going on behind.  You just have to.  It’s irresistible.

Because behind the door there might be a sculpture, or someone welding iron, or someone stripping down an old dresser.  There might be three old men, sitting in a courtyard, playing cards and laughing.  Or two women making ravioli by hand and talking about their grandchildren.  You might meet the most amazing person you ever met before behind a door in Italy. Opening a door in Italy can change your life. Speaking of which.

What about opening some new doors for yourself?

They don’t have to be beautiful, or mysterious, and they sure don’t have to be in Italy.  But you might want to think about the possibilities that will come your way if you deviate from your path a bit and open a new door.  Peek through.  See things that maybe would not have been part of your world if you had stayed on the straight and narrow.  Meet a new person. Stop in a cafe and have a cup of tea and write in your journal.   Read a new blog or book.  Try a new craft that brings you in contact with new people and materials.  Maybe try a new behavior, like worrying less and not second guessing yourself- that could lead to all kinds of possibilities. You would be surprised what doors might fly open if you relaxed.

There is nothing like discovering something new about yourself.

Clearing your clutter, making space for new ideas, and giving yourself a window of time to open some new doors in life can do you a world of good.  This is one of Italy’s biggest lessons to me.  Doors as barriers, doors as metaphor, doors as possibilities yet undiscovered.  I’ve been here for almost eight years, and I still can’t resist peeking behind closed doors!

Come on. You know you want to.  Go ahead. Open it.

 

 

  • http://expatsinitaly.com/annika Annika

    Yes I do. And I am about to.
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    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      you go girl. I am right with you.

  • http://www.elan.typepad.com C>olette

    Hi Diana,
    Thank you so much for your lovely insight to all the “open doors” waiting for us. I just finished re-reading your posting on fear and found it very inspiring.
    I’m at a point in my life where I seem to be going in circles. I’ve just opened a “new door” as a skin care consultant (natural soap products) but fear has reared its head once again. I love the products and can speak about them with passion, but when it comes to “selling” or finding a new hostess for a Soap Party, I back away.
    It’s very frustrating!

    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Colette, it’s about focus and just taking things a step at a time. The tasks that you don’t like are the ones you need to take slowly, bit by bit. Every enjoyable thing, it seems, comes with a piece that’s not enjoyable! Tackle those little by little. And then take a break and pat yourself on the back. Try selling one thing, asking one person to host an event. Basta. Then take it from there. If you try to load yourself up with too much at once, the fear will overwhelm you. xoxo

  • http://artofanomad.blogspot.com Sue Pownall

    I know I need to heed your advice, but I just want to put my head under the pillow and not experience anything new for a while. I’m done, burnt out… Just give me a moment or two and I will back being my normal inquisitive self and open a few new doors.
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    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Take the moment, Sue, or two or three. If your body and psyche are telling you to rest, it’s time to rest. Bulldozing through when you have burn out will lead to massive anxiety. No no no!!!! Take it easy and relax and just do what you have to do to get by. The energy will return if you relax

      • http://artofanomad.blogspot.com Sue Pownall

        Thank you. Still exhausted but working again :D

  • http://inspiredtype.wordpress.com Sue Alexander

    Hi Diana ~ I love this metaphor of doors, and the possibilities yet undiscovered! I’m also utterly fascinated by the visual beauty in the texture and color of old doors — they are so compelling. Thanks for the inspiration :~D
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    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Me too, Sue! I totally agree! :) xoxo

  • Denise Blackman

    Loved this! We are opening a huge new door-my husband retiring next year -at the age of 59! Can’t wait till we spend 6 months in Italy in a few years and the simplistic lifestyle it will bring. I have just read Ferenc Mates’s book called ‘Wisdom of Tuscany’ that showed me I can start a more simple rewarding lifestyle while in the states by realizing what is really important. This book is a must read-there is someting for everyone in it!
    I have been fortunate to find cousins near Naples that I get to experience what is behind their doors as an Italian family.

    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Hi Denise, moving toward a more simplified lifestyle is definitely not location dependent! Much luck with the new life phase you will be starting. xoxo

  • http://simplyalexa.typepad.com/trimmingthesails alexa

    Lovely to read this today – and just what I needed to hear. I have few experiences of Italy but remember similar doors from Spain – and am awash with nostalgia! I like the thought that doors might fly open if I just relaxed … :)
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    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      I know. It’s hard to believe that relaxing will help doors to open, but it will, while trying to force things never works. I love Spanish doors as well. Oh, those courtyards that you find….. xoxo

  • http://www.europeantravelista.com Debbie Beardsley

    Enjoyed this post. What a great twist at the end! Love the old doors on European buildings and as scary as it is I love opening new doors to my life. My 2 month old blog is one and my husband and I are planning our first extended trip abroad, is another.
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    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Lovely. The best of luck with your blog and with your travels. Both will bring you joy and surprises. xo

  • http://www.luxuria-jewellery.com Vanessa@Luxuria

    Wonderful post and some of the doors really remind me of where I live in Seville; very similar.Like you Diana I have opened some really heavy doors since moving to Spain; some took some real pushing to open, but now I am so pleased I persevered.

    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Ciao Vanessa! I know, the doors of Spain are as intriguing as the ones here! Look at the muscles we get pushing those doors open!! :) It’s great, isn’t it? xo

  • http://www.sistergirltales.blogspot.com nyc/caribbean ragazza

    Love this post.

    Sometimes the simple lessons are the most profound.
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    • http://www.baurbb.com Diana Baur

      Three years, Arlene. Can you believe it? Life is interesting, isn’t it. You’re very much of a door opener, and a risk taker, and a gentle warrior. xo

  • http://www.culturezest.org/home/users/detail/?UserHexID=ABF14D61-B0B3-4A97-B343-7A57EC58D038 Grace

    Diana, thank you so much for this inspiring post. I am a cautious person by nature, but sometimes I just need to fling a new door open. It’s always frustrating when I let fear get in my way. I’ve recently started an internship that involves marketing a new website (actually the one listed with this comment) and while I have little problem emailing people, the phone still seems to terrify me. I know I just need to open that door, and make a few calls, but I keep finding myself second guessing.

  • http://thehappyseeker.com Christopher Foster

    It’s a lovely post Diana and a very valuable one. Your mind works in the most lovely if sometimes mischievous ways.

    Nature is opening new doors all the time. Sometimes they are right there in front of me and I didn’t even see them at first…like the daffodils gracing a nearby hillside that I only just noticed for the first time this morning to my chagrin.
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